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30 Lessons People Learn Far Too Late In Life

Yaniv November 28, 2022 0

15. Curb Your Expectations

A lot of arguments in relationships stem from one person’s expectations of the other. This can also happen in the workplace, friendships, and many other situations. As long as you put high expectations on another person, you are bound to be disappointed. Remember that the other person cannot read your mind. They do not know what you expect from them. Even if they did, they have no obligation to obey your commands. You only have control over yourself, not other people. So while it is okay to have high expectations of yourself, doing it for things out of your control is only going to lead to disappointment.

For example, there is something called “Paris Syndrome,” which mainly affects Japanese tourists. People in Japan have hyped up their idea of Paris so much, that they truly do believe it is the “city of love.” They expect to arrive in France and magically find their one true love. But as soon as they get there, they realize it’s just a city. So they become so incredibly disappointed, it makes them feel physically sick. Compare that to someone who visits Paris with zero expectations. They are far more likely to have a great time because they will enjoy whatever happens.

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14. Don’t Let Fear of Embarrassment Stop You From Being Yourself

Whenever you try something new, there is always the chance that you might embarrass yourself. And some people are terrified to let their friends and co-workers know if they secretly have a guilty pleasure. At the end of the day, other people’s opinions of you don’t matter. You only have one life to live, so you should live it any way you want to.

In fact, if you begin to reveal more of your true self, you might find that there are more people who have the same interests as you. Live a genuine life and you are more likely to find others who are doing the same.

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13. Material Things Don’t Matter

So many people are trying to become rich so that they can buy the things they want. But at the end of the day, these are just things. Remember back to the moments when you desperately wanted the things that you have right now. Maybe getting that thing was exciting, but did those material things really make you a happier person?

Instead of focusing on buying the things on your wishlist, try to create a bucket list of accomplishments instead. You may need to spend money in order for those goals to come true. At the end of the day, you will feel far more accomplished by investing in fulfilling your dreams rather than buying new things.

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12. Eventually, Things Get Better

No matter how terrible a situation may be, there will always be a light at the end of the tunnel. Something can feel so incredibly painful that we cannot even imagine being happy again. This can lead to depression, especially if we do not have a good way to cope with the bad times.

Humans can make it through anything, even if a significantly difficult life event like a breakup, divorce, or death in the family. People are incredibly strong and resilient. So the next time you feel awful about something, try to remind yourself that pain is usually temporary.

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11. Everyone is Out For Themselves

When you go through life, sometimes it is all too easy to feel like someone is treating you unfairly. Or you might be tricked by someone who you assumed had good intentions. At the end of the day, everyone makes themselves their own top priority.

Everyone imagines themselves as the star of their own movie. All of their experiences are from their own perspective, not yours. So if you ever have trouble understanding someone else, try to put yourself in their shoes to understand the situation a bit better.

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10. Age is Just a Number

When we are in our 20s, it feels kind of like a race to get things done before we turn 30. Many people feel pressured to get married, have kids, or buy a house before they become “too old” to do so. They might also feel that if they have not accomplished something by a certain age, it becomes “too late” to change their situation or try new things.

Age is just a number. So many people look and feel completely different at all ages. For example, there are people between 90 and 100 years old who are still running marathons. You’re only as old as you feel. Take good care of yourself, try to live a healthy lifestyle, and never give up on your dreams regardless of your age.

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9. Forgive Others (Even if You Never Get an Apology)

We have all been hurt by someone in our lives. Holding grudges can be one of the most toxic things to deal with. Unfortunately, the people who hurt us the most you might never give you an apology. And if you wait around hoping for someone to say they are sorry, it is likely that moment will never come.

Remind yourself that forgiveness is about giving you peace of mind. By forgiving someone else for the things that they have done, it frees you from ever having to think about them again. Maybe someday that person actually will come back and try to talk to you again. You can decide that moment if you are willing to trust them again. More often than not, you may not be able to trust them, but at least you can talk to them from a cool and level-headed place.

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8. Learn to Put Your Ego in Check

Sometimes, our pride can get in the way of a lot of things. If we worry too much about feeding our ego, we can become too self-centered. That can get in the way of our success and happiness.

Instead of waiting to speak, focus on what other people are saying and listen to their words. Respond to what they are talking about, instead of talking over them. Once you learn how to communicate in this way, people will like you more. You can have amazing conversations and truly connect with other people.

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7. Everyone is Suffering

Every single day, we get an onslaught of messages from the media that we need to be happy every day. There is this subliminal message that if you have problems or moments of sadness, that means there is something “wrong” with you. In reality, everyone has problems. And if we were more sensitive to one another, we would get along better.

In Buddhism, they believe in the concept of “Dukkha,” which is the knowledge that everyone is suffering in some way. Whether it’s stress from work, relationships, paying the bills, or anything else, everyone has something going on behind the scenes. By realizing that everyone is suffering and going through something, it becomes easier to let things roll off your shoulders.

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6. Be Present In The Moment

Far too many people forget to be present in the moment. They go through life so zoned out that they forget to “stop and smell the roses”. Have you ever driven somewhere in your car, and then thought, “How did I get here?” That means you need to be more present in the moment.

Some people swear by practicing “mindfulness.: You may need to start meditating or simply paying attention to things around you more often. In the book A New Earth, author Eckhart Tolle suggests looking at a tree, but try to pretend like you are a newborn baby. You have no words for “tree” or “flower,” and you simply have to observe and take in the sight of it. By observing the world around you with this youthful curiosity, you will find yourself becoming more present.

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5. Don’t Be Afraid to Ask For Help

A lot of people are afraid to ask for help because they don’t want to appear weak. Or maybe they want to have the pride of knowing that they accomplished something all on their own. Unfortunately, if you’re too stubborn to ask for help, this can sometimes hold you back from succeeding. Don’t be afraid to ask for help when you really need it.

Instead of seeing you as weak, your friends and family will most likely be proud of you for showing vulnerability. And by opening yourself up to be more vulnerable, you might be surprised that other people are willing to share their struggles, too. This can bring people a lot closer.

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4. It’s Always Worthwhile To See the World

Some people think that traveling the world is something you do when you are a young college student without a lot of responsibilities. No matter how much you have traveled, there is always a part of the world that you have never explored before.

Traveling will never be a waste of money because it is giving you a new perspective on life. If you are ever trying to decide between taking a trip or staying at home, you should always go for the trip. In fact, most Americans do not take enough time to go on vacation, in comparison to the rest of the world. You might find that when you come back, you will be refreshed and able to work twice as hard as you did before.

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3. Say What You Mean to Say

A lot of people hold back from opening up about their true emotions because they are afraid of the negative repercussions. Sure, you might say something foolish and feel like an idiot. But at least you were honest with your feelings.

There is nothing more tragic than regretting things left unsaid. You might spend the rest of your life thinking, “I wish I told them that I loved them.” Holding back from saying what you really mean to say is often why people lose the ones they love. You never know if the other person feels the same way you do. And if they don’t, at least you know the truth, and you can move on knowing that you gave it your best shot.

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2. Remember To Enjoy Life

This piece of advice sounds very simple, but most of us truly need to be reminded to enjoy our lives. As we get older, we are expected to be very serious and professional. Suddenly, we have tons of responsibility weighing down on us.

Even if you have a lot to worry about, it is still important to enjoy life to the fullest. If you have not taken a break in a long time, go on a vacation. Or at the very least, go somewhere fun in your local area. Life is meant to be so much more than work.

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1. A Lifetime Is Not Really That Long

Last, and certainly not least, is that life is unfortunately not as long as we think it is. When you consider that we sleep at least eight hours per night, we are at work eight hours a day, and you may also be commuting, this leaves very little time to actually be our true selves. And as we get older, time seems to go by much faster.

Remember to hold on to your precious moments and never take life for granted. Go after your dreams and live without regret.

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